So I was on the train this morning… And I had a mini-epiphany. I always considered myself a fighter, not a lover. Most of the things in my life had to be won. I succumbed to my porn addiction that I said I would beat. I made a promise and I willingly broke it. I’ve realised there’s little point in saying to myself, “this is the last time” or feeling disgusted and disappointed with myself afterwards… it’s bound to happen again. So instead of resisting, suppressing or fighting, I started doing what I do best and I started thinking. I identified a pattern amongst those three words, resisting, suppressing and fighting. All three suggest that whatever it is, it’s stronger than you. That’s where it all really starts, doesn’t it? The initial way of perceiving it. Most anti-addiction therapy groups treat it this way. I wonder: is it something you can ever recover from or beat (even those two words suggest that you’re being dominated)? One of the more common ways to beat it is to ignore it and deny its existence. That’s like having a burning house; if you ignore it, it won’t go away. It will keep burning and take you down with it. People tend to hide addictions. They do this out of shame.

Original Source of My Porn Addiction – Are You a Lover Or a Fighter?