It’s so easy to fool ourselves, as caregivers , into thinking we are doing everything in the best interest of our loved one. Unfortunately, it’s all too easy for resentment to build up to the point where we outwardly seem to care, but our actions tell the truth. I’ve been under stress lately because my relief person is away on holiday. I am alone with Adrian 24 hours a day, and his needs are so great sometimes, they get me down. That is no excuse for passive aggression, but it reared its ugly head anyway. I was taking time out on Christmas Eve afternoon to call an old friend in Canada. In the middle of my call, Adrian approached and started to show me his glasses. I waved him away, indicating I wanted to finish my phone call, but he came back a few minutes later. I told my friend, “I’ve gotta go. Adrian needs me.” Adrian’s glasses had fallen apart, yet again. I’ve never known anyone whose glasses were so prone to fall apart like his, and I’m not talking about a single pair. He must be awfully rough on them. First, I tried calling some local opticians, but they all seemed to be closed or about to close for the holiday. So I found my kit with screws and tiny screwdriver to fix them myself. I managed to replace the screw, but it didn’t seem very tight, so I found some super-glue to make it permanent. Well, in my hurry, I put the glue in the wrong joints–the ones that are supposed to bend. So I kept bending them back and forth to keep them from sticking. Then I added glue in the right spots, but I put in too much, and the glue dripped onto the lens itself

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